State what you want
Create a profile that says who you are, what you value, and what a serious contender should bring.
The relationship application platform
Some people are worth competing for.
Put your standards on the table. Invite thoughtful applications. Review contenders privately—and choose only when someone earns it.
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OPEN · 8 DAYS LEFT
Marc, 39
Ann Arbor, Michigan
I built a life I love. I’m looking for someone with the warmth and ambition to build the next chapter together.
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The RefKeeps it intentional.
Not another swipe.
Not a popularity contest.
A clear invitation to show what you bring.
How it works
High standards.
A simple process.
You set the bar. The Ref keeps the process clear, fair, and private.
Open the competition
Choose an application window and share your private link anywhere you already have attention.
Review on your terms
Shortlist thoughtfully. Ask follow-ups. Choose a contender—or close without choosing anyone.
For the prize
You are not asking to be picked.
You are inviting the right person to meet the standard your life already has.
- Set required and optional questions
- Review without public likes or comments
- Control the deadline and outcome
- Block, report, and remove at any time
For contenders
Bring more than a like.
A good application is specific, human, and worth the person’s time.
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Application ready5 thoughtful answers · 2:14 intro
92%“What would we build together that neither of us would build alone?”
★ Standout applicationPricing
Free to think.
Pay when you open.
Applications stay free. Contenders may optionally pay to make a stronger presentation—never to buy a decision.
Draft
$0
Build privately and see how your competition will look.
- ✓ Profile builder
- ✓ Application preview
- ✓ Save as long as you need
Open Competition
$49 one time
Publish, collect applications, shortlist, and choose.
- ✓ One live competition
- ✓ Unlimited standard applications
- ✓ Private review dashboard
Featured
$149 one time
For people who want stronger reach and a polished launch.
- ✓ Everything in Open
- ✓ Featured discovery placement
- ✓ Launch copy review
Optional contender upgrades: Standout application $14.99 · Identity verification $9.99/year · Background verification from $49.99
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The RefKeeps it intentional.